** Say hey, this post is for Christ, but I also want to quickly answer Andy’s question. I live in two places: Whitefish and Missoula, both of which are in Montana. Whitefish is a little paradise sort of town in Northwest USA, about 60 miles from the Canadian border. Missoula is sort of a “mini-Berkeley” (= “extremely liberal"), and it is here that I attend school.
Okay, now on to Chris’s questions.
Can you tell us more? Where/how is this used? I have never really heard this, especially in the way you express it. I wonder (forgive me!) if you have expressed it more strongly than any proponents would.
** First, I’ve heard it used on certain occasions from different people, and yes, it is true that those persons (who accept the analog) never, insofar as I’ve seen, stated it as I’m stating it here. But the point is this: that is how those who disapprove of the analogy tend to “take” it.
Let me give an example: when trying to explain the Trinity, there are a number of analogies that we could use. Take a famous one: according to some, the Trinity can be compared to “water, ice, and steam.” The problem for many would be that this seems to imply modalism. And imagine what would happen if those who used the analogy were not quick to point out that they are aware of its weak spots, and use other analogies as well which in their turn emphasize the personhood of the divine persons.
I think the case is similar with the “husband-wife” analogy. We ought to be quick to point to its weak spots (e.g., the disjunction of consciousness is quite different between a husband and a wife on the one hand, and the Father and the Son on the other) and ready to provide other analogies (the Son does the Father’s will as shine proceeds from the sun).
For example, I wonder if it might be put by some as ‘husband leading in love.’ Waiting for further enlightenment ...
** I don’t doubt that this is true in many important respects, but at the same time, is it not the case that marriages aren’t that nice and simple? Suppose a husband wants to enroll the child in a secular school that is close to home. The wife, on the other hand, would prefer to enroll their child in a Christian school, though it would be a bit more troublesome to get the child to and from school on such days.
In this case, it is perfectly possible that the wife’s idea is, in fact, the better of the two; and even if the husband insists lovingly, the fact remains that the wife’s will is “checked” by her husband’s. So what happens? The wife’s will is frustrated, and she has to “submit”: “not my will, but yours be done.”
And if you take away all of the points in such an analogy which could not possibly be likened to the Trinity (e.g., there is no separation of wills between the persons), then I think that you’ll find that there are better ways to think about the persons interacting one with another.
Another question, for any. I came across comment recently that marriage is not a biblical image for Trinity, but for for Christ & the church. (It was in an English reaction to some writing by Jeffrey John who supported same-sex relationships by linking marriage->Trinity->all are God->same sex is OK.) Forget about the context. Is there merit in the comment?
** As for me, I actually think that marriage could very well be likened to the Trinity, but in this manner: let us not imagine the Trinity according to our own marriages, but rather, let us first perceive the Trinity as clearly as we can, and then model our marriages accordingly, insofar as possible. (And no, I’m not married.) For example, in our world, all things are interdependent. In order for me to be able to live, I must be nourished, literally, by other beings (e.g., we eat animals). Now it is a good thing for all things to be interdependent, such that we all live by giving to others and receiving from others. But I cannot help but to think that the form of this giving and receiving would be quite different were our world not fallen. For example, I believe that God would prefer the “lion to lay down beside the lamb” rather than chasing it and inflicting pain on it when it catches it and eats it alive.
Similarly, though there is more than a grain of truth in saying that marriage is like the Trinity, I think that our reasoning should go from the Trinity to marriage, rather than from marriages as we now know them to the Trinity. Hope that helps.
See John Paul II’s The Theology of the Body: Human Love in the Divine Plan for more.
Adios and all the best,
Matt