The first step may be for some of us (maybe me included) to rethink our approach. I’ve been to lots of evangelism training, including the latest hot technique, ‘dialogue evangelism’ but am coming to the view that the ‘systems’ I’ve been encouraged to adopt are not helpful.
Looking at the way Jesus communicated, although we only have very brief, I suggest, summaries, in the NT, the essence seems to be responsiveness to the other person. Jesus acknowledged and dealt with their issues or concerns, then moved to the gospel in a manner relevant to those issues or concerns. Of course, for us, this might take many conversations and inevitable mutuality in relationship (that means mutual vulnerability) and co-understanding of each others’ ‘spiritual’ journey (even pagans have one of these, I’ve discovered). But these things have never been discussed in any formal evangelism course I’ve done.
The other thing for us, is that we don’t need to ‘show all’ at the first encounter. It seems that many Christians think they have to tell the whole gospel at once. I don’t think this is so, as the key to any conversation should be, I think, dealing with the issues that arise. In one hospital I was in I overheard a Christian nurse sympathising with a relative of a dying patient who was asking about suffering. She was not after a theological explanation of suffering, but sympathy and acknowledgement. The nurse gave this to her, leaving the way for that relationship to be further built. The nurse didn’t think it even appropriate to mention God or our Saviour; but from what I heard it was a very Christian, caring and open encouter, buring contact with the sorrowing person.
I think the key here is, as a person, in relationship with another person, we both have questions, hurts and perplexities, I am not there to ‘instruct’ the other, but to live with them in relationship through which the gospel may shine and be communicated. Thus ‘relationship evangelism’ perhaps!
Now, to Paul. Paul in his gospelling to non-believers (most of his recorded work is with believers) really gets on their wavelength, knows and uses their culture and discusses. Acts 17 and his work in the hall he hired are in my mind on this.
I don’t know if we are encouraged to discuss; but rather to ‘conclude’ and I think we may be uncomfortable with loose ends, always encouraged to ‘drive’ for a commitment or a formulaic prayer, of fill in a naff and intrusive ‘response’ card. Some things we do, I think, we must critically re-think. This is most pronounced in the evangelistic talks that I’ve heard. I remember hearing the same talks in ‘fundamentalist’ churches in the 60s and 70’s where they were of as little effect as they seem to be today (the one’s I’ve been to, ie.). I think today we find credibiltiy in authentic relationships, not stern and sometimes patronising lectures from someone who seems to be set up as an expert in life (this is the way unbelievers have put it to me, btw, not my words).
On this basis a suitable action would be to go off and join an organisation/club/society where we’ll meet unbelievers so we can have (open mutual) relationships with them.
Anyway, my 2c.
DG